These are the most popular posts on Midlife Tribe. Each one seemed to strike a chord, triggering honest, candid responses from people I've never met. Together, they chronicle some of the most valuable lessons learned on my journey towards a happier life.
Master your Time, your Money and your Life
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It's tough to create a side hustle after ten hours away from home each day. You're exhausted. Your kids need you; your partner needs you. A great first step is to do your 'normal' job from home because you gain many of the same benefits – before you even start a business.
I thought I'd be making a big splash this week with my new project, but sadly, I'm just not ready yet. Lucky for you (and me), my adorable sister has stepped into the breach once again with a fabulous story about her journey as a writer, as seen through the eyes of a psychic. Enjoy!
Sometimes I look up at the night sky and wonder why I'm stressed about a deadline or some arbitrary goal. Seen from outer space, the concerns of this solitary human must surely seem laughable. And then I remember how small I am, and the stress vanishes.
After losing her father at 47, Tania set out to change her life. This year, she's doing it again. And like those who commit to sharing their life out in the open, she's still figuring things out. But that, I'm discovering, is the best way to live – to treat life as a series of experiments.
I'm neck-deep in an exciting new project right now, so 15-hr days are my current norm. Thankfully, my amazing sister's come to the rescue again with another fresh take on middle-age. This is delightfully short, salty and very satisfying – like a box of Barbeque Shapes.
Achieving goals doesn't make us happy. It doesn't cure our insecurities, our anxiety or our depression. If anything, it amplifies them, because there's always more… Victory is always fleeting, but the mountain range is endless. As Prince said, 'I've been to the mountaintop, and there's nothing there.
Most of us work to retire. But what if we decided to retire right now, and instead chose how, where and when we worked? How much fun would 'retirement' be? Today's Midlife Mentors guest, Tom Schwab did exactly that, and it changed his life from one of fearing death to embracing life.
Before this generation, no one our age ever witnessed the opportunities we're now seeing. And there's plenty of room for everyone because it's never ‘everyone' that goes for it. Few will make a deliberate decision to step out and try something that might not work. So start exploring, and blaze your own trail!
Imagine losing your marriage and your income, and then selling everything you own just to stay off the streets. Now picture doing this as a 45-yo mother of two little girls who desperately need you to love, feed and protect them. What would you do?
With each evolution, each rung up the ladder, we realise our problems aren't eliminated – they're replaced with new ones. You cannot avoid problems. But problems aren't the problem. Rather, it's our relationship to problems. Instead of problem avoidance, exercise problem selection.
Time will always be fluid. Sometimes it will drag its feet and other times it will fly so fast you cannot grasp it. But you decide how you spend your time to enrich your life and the lives of those you love. Don't let it slip through your fingers lest it runs out before you expect. Because it almost certainly will.