Achieving goals doesn't make us happy. It doesn't cure our insecurities, our anxiety or our depression. If anything, it amplifies them, because there's always more… Victory is always fleeting, but the mountain range is endless. As Prince said, 'I've been to the mountaintop, and there's nothing there.
Master your Time, your Money and your Life
THE MIDLIFE TRIBE BLOG
Most of us work to retire. But what if we decided to retire right now, and instead chose how, where and when we worked? How much fun would 'retirement' be? Today's Midlife Mentors guest, Tom Schwab did exactly that, and it changed his life from one of fearing death to embracing life.
Before this generation, no one our age ever witnessed the opportunities we're now seeing. And there's plenty of room for everyone because it's never ‘everyone' that goes for it. Few will make a deliberate decision to step out and try something that might not work. So start exploring, and blaze your own trail!
Imagine losing your marriage and your income, and then selling everything you own just to stay off the streets. Now picture doing this as a 45-yo mother of two little girls who desperately need you to love, feed and protect them. What would you do?
With each evolution, each rung up the ladder, we realise our problems aren't eliminated – they're replaced with new ones. You cannot avoid problems. But problems aren't the problem. Rather, it's our relationship to problems. Instead of problem avoidance, exercise problem selection.
Time will always be fluid. Sometimes it will drag its feet and other times it will fly so fast you cannot grasp it. But you decide how you spend your time to enrich your life and the lives of those you love. Don't let it slip through your fingers lest it runs out before you expect. Because it almost certainly will.
"If it’s failure you’re afraid of, ask whether you’d a) rather have tried and failed, or b) spent every single day of your life with the same loop of thoughts in your head about what you really want to be doing and why you’re not. If you don’t try, prepare to settle for option B." Laura Belgray - copywriting genius.
Three years ago, I was busy having a midlife crisis. I railed against work days and longed for weekends. I sought adventure and escape from the daily routine but nothing I did seemed to change anything. Then, one night at 2:00 am I did something that changed everything. Learn what I did and I how I changed my life.
"As the late Jim Rohn said: 'If you don’t like how things are, change them. You’re not a tree…' All successful investors, business people and entrepreneurs have failed more often than unsuccessful people. They became a success at failing. And they've survived until they became lucky and thrived." Michael Yardney
I used to believe happiness could be bought, so I worked hard and I tried to buy it over and over again. But I was never satisfied. There was always another level; always more. I finally learned that by linking happiness and goals, we treat life as a quest, and therefore paradoxically, delay happiness.
Discover your true calling through the insights of Catherine Rains - a powerhouse of a woman who beat cancer, a divorce, and a job she hated - to become a successful full-time artist. She now lives her dream, all because she reframed her life in a couple of profound ways.
Everything I do today is filtered through a simple, unambiguous question: ‘Will this bring me closer to freedom or push it further away?' If I'm honest, it's been a consistent thread in my life since I was a kid. But what is freedom, and will money give it to you?